MAI MOM: Linda Arrey

PRESIDENT/CEO – WILDE INC. NONPROFIT STARTUP CONSULTANT. INTERNATIONAL SPEAKER. AUTHOR. CERTIFIED LIFE & LEADERSHIP COACH.

Give us a quick rundown of Linda Arrey Nkwenti, the Powerhouse.

As a Personal Growth Strategist, I am the GPS to women who are feeling stuck in life and in need for personal and/or professional elevation into a lifestyle of joy and fulfillment. My book Memoirs of a Working Mother, is a blueprint for women, particularly working mothers. I am a TEDx Speaker and have been invited to give keynote speeches for organizations nationwide, and abroad, to include colleges, nonprofit organizations, women’s conferences and government organizations, including the military. As a Nonprofit Consultant, I help women transform their ideas into sustainable and successful 501c3 organizations, with lasting impact. When I’m not leading boardroom meetings or wearing six inch heels, I wear combat boots, and serve as a Captain and Chief Financial Officer in the U.S. Air Force. Above all, I am a mother of two of God’s greatest creations and wife to my husband, Tse.

How has motherhood changed you as a person?

Motherhood remains my most challenging, yet most joyful experience. It has taught me to pause and be present where I am. It has also given me a new meaning of God’s purpose in my life. God loved me so much that he trusted Tse and I to parent our beautiful daughters. They are my reason. They are the joy after a bad day, or the push when life gets overwhelming. Because of them, I know that quitting will never be an option, and victory is mine. Victory is ours. It is my duty to create a legacy for our kids. And my biggest prayer is that the Lord uses Tse and I to raise our daughters according to His Will. The first fatal aviation accident occurred in a Wright Model A aircraft at Fort Myer, Virginia, USA, on September 17, 1908, resulting in injury to the pilot, Orville Wright, and death of the passenger on board, who was Signal Corps Lieutenant Thomas Selfridge.

What does your “tribe” look like? Are they moms? Are they business owners? Both?  

I am surrounded by a very diverse tribe of women from various professional and personal walks of life. There is a woman in my tribe that every woman of the world can see some parts of her in. What matters is that we are each committed to seeing one another grow and succeed at home, personally and at the workplace; whether you own your business, are gainfully employed, or are self employed as a stay home mom. One lesson I have garnered over the years, and would pass along is that not everyone deserves open access to you. Your tribe should embody different layers of people for different needs and seasons. Give what you desire to receive, and sometimes more.

Are you a book reader? What books are you reading right now?

I must say I have not been doing pleasure reading for a few years now. I do read for personal, professional and business growth; books to widen my horizon and elevate my knowledge. I just finished reading Unclonned by Audria Richmond, and I am excited about incorporating her marketing strategies into my business and the women in my community.

In what ways does your tribe support each other?

We are who you call when you need prayers through a difficult life journey, and who you turn to when you need your community to celebrate that huge business or personal win. We pray, cry and laugh with you. We break barriers and lift you up. We meet you where you are, and encourage and motivate you to live life at your maximum potential. Simply put, we walk life with you.

What keeps you going? What encourages you to be innovative and to keep creating even during slow and hard times? 

My kids are my biggest inspiration. My drive is to continue raising them as Kingdom Queens. I am also fueled by my desire to serve other women and see them succeed. We are stronger together. COVID may have slowed us down, but can’t stop the uphill transformations. We are pivoting through it all, and discovering new ways to coexist with COVID-19.

What does self-care look like to you?

It is about total wholeness. Taking care of you mentally, physical, emotionally, spiritually and financially. I often hear women say, they are unable to practice self-care because they don’t have time or money. Self-care doesn’t have to cost money. It could be taking 30 mins out of your day to listen to your favorite song, or to meditate and pray. It could be taking a long uninterrupted shower. It doesn’t have to cost you money. And when it comes to time, you just have to make time. Factor your self-care time into your daily schedule and take it. If you keep waiting for time, it may never happen, because each day you wake up, you only have 24 hours. Commit to making the best out of your day.

How are you getting through virtual school? Any tips to share to make it through the day?

We happily do not have school age children yet, so this is not a worry of mine for right now. But I do pray for more patience, wisdom and knowledge for all my sisters who have to go back to 5th grade!

What inspired you to write Memoirs of a Working Mother? 

At age 29, I started experiencing period clots and heavy bleeding, also known as menorrhagia. I was later informed by my doctor that I had uterine fibroids. My doctor and I were discussing options of removing the fibroids, when I found out that Tse and I were going to be parents, I was pregnant. To say the least, I had a difficult pregnancy and at 24 weeks, I was placed on bedrest. The fibroids grew with the baby and made my day-to-day activities near impossible. For someone who is used to being very active, staying on bedrest was a hard pill to swallow. But I knew I had to push through and find creative ways to stay occupied. My priority remained to bring a healthy baby to the world and also be alive. So I started journaling, and also launched a Facebook comfort group for other expectant moms who simply needed to chat and share their experiences with assurance that they were not alone. I made the conscious decision to see the positives of my moments of pause and to nurture the moments with my unborn child and the new relationships I was cultivating. I transformed from a woman almost faced with depression from bed-rest, to now enjoying my time and days. One thing I didn’t have to worry about was money. For that I felt blessed. As an Officer in the Air Force, I was gainfully employed. As an entrepreneur, my businesses were running themselves. I could also still pick up my phone or jump on a zoom call to coach a client without leaving my bed or couch. I was finally resting my body and utilizing my mind to do the things I love. But, I had to think of the women who lost their jobs while on bed-rest without a source of income. These women did not only have to worry about getting better, but also worried about the next meal or rent money. I wanted to help. I started sharing what I have learned over the years with the women in my group and also wrote to them in my journal. I believe financial flexibility is important in life, and it is equally great to have an alternate source of income, where possible. I poured everything I knew into my book “Memoirs of a Working Mother”, and it truly is my gift to the women of the world. As mothers, God equipped us as the givers of life, we wear our crowns and capes everyday to provide and protect our creations.

How can we keep in touch with you? 

I welcome you to become a part of my community of women who are passionate about succeeding with you. http://www.wildeinc.org/winnerscircle

For ways to work with me for your nonprofit aspirations, personal growth or to get an autographed copy of my book: http://www.memoirsofaworkingmother.com

Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/linda.arrey

IG: http://www.instagram.com/linda_arrey

LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/lindaarrey

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